Learning to Let Go: Surrendering Control to God
Control has always been a difficult thing for me to give up.
I am a planner.
I love timelines.
I think far ahead.
I like to know what’s next.
So learning how to surrender and relinquish control to God in this season of my life has not been easy.
All of the plans I once had for myself have completely fallen apart. And some days, I feel stuck. I find myself wondering:
What am I supposed to be doing right now?
Am I behind?
Did I make the wrong choices?
Am I missing something?
I question.
I second-guess.
I overthink.
Yet, even in the uncertainty, I am still a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that there is something greater on the other side of this.
Although I have no idea what God has in store for me, this season has allowed me to discover—and rediscover—parts of myself.
For example, I used to love reading. I mean love reading. I would finish a book every couple of weeks. At one point in my life, I read ten books in three months. That’s how much of an avid reader I was.
Somewhere along the way, life started lifing.
I got tired.
I got distracted.
I got lazy.
And I stopped reading.
Recently, I picked up a book again.
And I remembered.
I remembered how calming it feels.
I remembered how much I enjoy getting lost in a story.
I remembered a version of myself that felt lighter.
In this season, God is allowing me to reconnect with the positive characteristics of my old self—while leaving behind the unhealthy ones.
He’s not taking me backwards.
He’s refining me.
He’s taking the good.
He’s removing the harmful.
He’s replacing negative traits with healthier ones.
And I believe that is what surrender looks like.
Not knowing the full picture.
Not having all the answers.
Still choosing to trust.
If you are someone who feels the need to control every situation, I want to gently challenge you:
Try relinquishing your control to God.
And if you don’t know how to do that, ask Him to help you.
Pray for the willingness.
Pray for softened hands.
Pray for trust.
Have faith.
Trust the process.
You got this, sis.
🤍 Reflection Questions
Take a few moments to sit with these:
What areas of my life am I trying to control the most right now?
What would it look like to surrender one of those areas to God?
What parts of my old self am I being invited to reconnect with?
What habits or traits am I being asked to release?
How has God shown up for me in past uncertain seasons?
You may want to journal your responses, pray through them, or simply sit quietly with God.
🌱 Gentle Call-to-Action Steps
Write down one thing you’ve been trying to control and place it in a prayer.
Ask God to help you release what you’re holding tightly.
Revisit an activity you once loved and notice how it makes you feel.
Take one small step today that aligns with trust rather than fear.
Share this post with someone who may need encouragement in their own season of surrender.
💬 Let’s Talk
What is one thing you are learning to surrender to God in this season?
Feel free to leave a comment or reflect privately. You’re not alone in this journey.
